If I am not fully responsible for who I am, I will perceive and find people outside of me and try to make them responsible for who I am.
Another way to describe this mechanism is to realize that you are making yourself dependent on the ego.
Your entire purpose of disowning yourself is to attempt to claim ownership of the ego self, and to make yourself depend on it for everything.
This is of course a substitute for depending on God for everything.
So as you own up to who you are and what you are and being yourself unconditionally, you are also restoring your dependency on God.
You can't be truly responsible for who you are without being aligned with God, therefore. If you are anti-God or don't believe in such a thing, you must and will remain separate, and in doing so you will depend on the ego heavily.
The act of waking up is relinquishing all dependence on the ego, because if you depend on it, you are attached to it. It's an attempt to try to own and possess it, and as it turns out, this causes it to appear to possess you!
When you let go of depending on the ego, this means letting go of depending on anything outside of you for your happiness or peace of mind or the meeting of so-called needs. Artificial needs are only created when you are not being your real self.
Jesus is 100% dependent on God and no longer depends on the ego whatsoever. You can too.