In our special relationships, we think of a particular person as our savior, idol, bestie, or appointed partner. We adore them with very exclusive terms and special attention. Things that we reserve only for them and for no-one else.
This is...
While persona ego self, within our body, is firm in the belief that our shadow self, projected outside of our body, is 'not me', there is a sense of separation between the two and there is war and conflict.
In this...
I'm gradually learning from Holy Spirit that figuring out what is wrong with someone is a no-no, even if I think it's part of trying to heal.
I think to myself that I need to figure it out, because it seems...
When you think of guidance you think of you being separate from the source of guidance - God, and attempting to receive some kind of communication. You hope at first to get any kind of communication at all, and later...
Everything in the ego's mindset looks like one thing but is actually something completely opposite.
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What we call attack, is actually retreat.
God cannot be attacked. When you try to attack God, if you were to go punch God in the face,...
It's interesting that it is people with egos who seek to become more spiritual.
This is based on the ego belief that they are not already perfect, complete, holy, innocent etc. Life probably sucks in some way, and this compels them...
When you decide to use your persona, you are actually striking a deal with the ego. The ego has an all-or-nothing clause, where if you want to use the persona, you have to also use the shadow right along with...
I had no idea, that I had been spending vast majority of my life attempting to use the ego's persona in order to 'make life better'.
All the times that I people-pleased to try to make bad people go away.
All the...
The idea of your persona is that it rejects everything you don't like, keeping only the good stuff.
If you get really good at using your persona, you will get really brutal at cutting out things which seem even remotely bad.
Eventually...
The ego doesn't have any real power of its own. Its only strategy is to try to get you to willingly give your power to it.
To do this, it has to present to you some kind of temptation or lie,...
I was being controlling. I did not want things to be the way they are. i wanted to stop them being the way they are and be different. I could not accept that this was okay or that it should...
The ego has two parts to it, because the ego is a belief-system based on duality. Duality is based on separation. The ego mind is a 'split mind'. The ego mind is at war with itself and is in conflict....
The really big problem we have isn't so much to do with the characteristics of the ego. The big problem that we've confused who we are with it. Our sense of 'self' has become caught up in it. Our identity...
When you try to go into the light, while still holding onto ego in any way, you are trying to bring darkness into the light.
What that means is, you believe the darkness can 'stay dark' while you enter the light....
In the ego's world, having expectations seems to produce stress and upset. We seem to be tasked with dropping all expectations, so that whatever happens, we will be okay with it. It is good not to have attachments to outcomes,...
For the ego, an answer is not an answer that solves a problem. Instead its answers are merely manipulations which describe the problem and compound it.
Sometimes the ego makes it appear that a problem is being 'solved' by, apparently practically,...
Know this. It is not possible to objectively and neutrally try to determine what the truth is, using the ego, without avoiding the truth.
There is no 'innocently seeking for the answer'. There is no mode that you can be in...
The ego makes a problem seem real, gets intense about it, magnifies it, and then tries to do something about it.
The ego can put on a mask of being a 'problem solver' or 'fixer' or 'doer' or 'seeker', claiming that...
When you defend your ego self, you become righteous. And as you do this, you will become angry.
The Course says "anger is never justified", but when we are defending an idea of "why I am right", I AM attempting to...
One trap I often fall into is this... it's particularly sneaky...
Someone else is 'actually wrong' about something, I am 'actually right' about something.
i.e. based on the situation, on the ego level, somebody actually has made some mistake that's obvious, I...